Loves,
I am going on my eighth year of writing a monthly blog post!
That is quite an astonishing feat for this Aries who likes to flit, flutter, and dart from one project to another. It all started January 1, 2019. I was deep into writing my memoir, and I decided that I’d create a blog about what I’d experienced in an abusive relationship around intimate partner violence.
For three years I wrote bravely and fiercely about my first date and red flags, the belittling remarks my X spoke about his ex-wife, and the inappropriate ways he treated his daughter from his past marriage. I talked about his Know-It -All attitude and God complex, and how he was jealous and possessive and controlling of me. There was body shaming, gaslighting, harassment and threats which then ended in physical abuse of me and my baby. I regretted ever getting into a relationship with this man, and wrote to understand what had happened to me. I talked about women’s shelters, how people judged me or didn’t believe me and my loss of trust. There were years of court hearings and judges and lawyers, and shame and exhaustion.
In 2022, when I’d emptied myself of this pain, I wrote about all the ways I healed. I created vision boards, I journaled in the mornings and meditated, walked in nature, listened and danced to great music, read amazing books and studied incredible teachers, used my intuition with oracle cards and tarot, rested, added more movement, and found friendships and community.
For 2023-2024, I was onto monthly reflections from my life. I’d created a new website with writing workshops and soul path readings and photography. I joined a gay choir and was working on the edits for my memoir. I grieved the death of my sweet 13 ½ year old cat. I was gifted a genetic test and found out I’m English/Swedish/Danish/Irish. I took books out from the library on financial education. I went to readings, and book launches, and writer salons and I taught my workshop. I spent the summer swimming in different bodies of water, hosting beach BBQ’s, volunteering at a folk fest, singing in my first performance, going to potlucks and dances and outdoor concerts. I travelled to Taiwan and road tripped around the gorgeous, tropical island. Then I bought my first home, and got remarried, and went on my honeymoon to Iceland. Wow!
In 2025, I circled back to the subject of domestic violence. I used this year to interview brave and vulnerable woman on their personal stories of abuse. I asked these three questions – What happened? How did it impact your life? How did you heal? I felt so honored to be a witness to these women’s lives and what they shared with me, and what they shared with you.
Now in 2026, I’m writing about everything and anything! From the beginnings of my spiritual Instagram account, to my daily commitment to my book of kindness, to winning a community service award, to my adventures out in the world. I can feel this is going to be the best year yet!
When I look back over the seven years of monthly posts, I’m in awe of my commitment to writing. I have a record of my own personal growth at “earth school”. Oh the things I’ve been through! The challenges. The successes. The healing. The empowerment. The connections. The adventures. The joy.
I always come back to the joy. And to you!
