When I was a young woman of twenty-two years old, and questioning my purpose and path in life, I left my home in Canada, and went on a spontaneous trip to Hawaii. There I fell in love with an older man, and decided to join my life with his. We lived within a tropical jungle, swam in the salty ocean, and ate food grown on the land. We had a child together and created a family. From the outside view, life was perfect.
But there was something else going on as well. I began to witness a slowly evolving aggression in my partner. There was an impatience about him, and an irrational way of thinking. His love turned into a twisted dominion over his family. His radical ways, that at one time seemed intriguing and exciting, were becoming alarming. His authority was ruining our lives.
I became his secret holder. I didn’t have a name for it at the time, but what I was experiencing was intimate partner violence.
Follow along with me on this spiritual path as I uncover my stories of self-awareness, reflection, and healing from abuse and trauma.
To anyone who’s lived through family violence or is still living in it now –
these are my love letters to you.
The World Health Organization estimates that 1 in 3 women worldwide have experienced physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence. In my home country of Canada, it’s 1 in 5 women, and on average, every six days a woman is killed by her spouse. In the United States, 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence from their committed partner, and nearly half of all murdered women are killed by romantic partners. Every year thousands of children witness or experience family violence.