I have an idea.
When women and children are abused, how about abusers are taken out of their homes and moved to shelters. What a concept, right? Imagine that a family is scared shitless by domestic violence, and they call the police knowing that one hundred percent for sure, their family tormentor will be held in jail or sent to a men’s shelter. Why should women and children have to go through this hardship? Isn’t what they went through awful enough?
Try to visualize this. At the men’s shelter, an advocate does an intake and talks about the harm the abuser has inflicted. Like a confessional. It is all recorded so that the abuser can get the help they need. Then they’re taken to a private or shared room with other abusers, and given donated clothes and food and toiletries so they can survive. They live within the shelters routines, and are mandated to go to group counselling sessions, have a curfew, and wear electronic ankle monitors so that they can be tracked at all times.
The women and children can stay in their family home, and keep to the routines that bring them comfort and security. They didn’t do anything wrong so why should they have to leave? And the abuser can keep on financially supporting them like they always did, if they did. And they can pay for their family’s trauma counselling.
And since I’m being quite brazen, how about evening out of the playing field. Typically, the abuser has way more money to get a lawyer to fight his family in court, while the abused typically leans on legal aide. Why not make this fair? Equal access to quality lawyers.
Do you think this is too much? It’s not. Abusers are dangerous. They should be tracked. Up to 75% of abused woman who are murdered are killed after they leave their partners (the guardian). The abuser has nothing left to lose. I wonder this: if men knew that there were actual consequences for their actions, would it make a dent in domestic violence statistics?
Time to make some new rules. Some new laws.
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